When I gave birth to Grant I was younger and a lot less educated on what I wanted. I knew that I wanted to have a natural childbirth, but I didnt put in the time I should have to do all the research on how to successfully acheive everything I wanted out of this huge experience. This time I have done a lot more serearch (maybe to the point of obsession) and I feel like Jared and I are both ready to acheive the birthing experience we want for our second son.
Some may ask "WHY??" Why do I want a natural childbirth when I know it could be so much easier and less painful? Well, let me just start by saying that a natural birth to me doesnt mean just not using pain meds. A natural childbirth is just like it sounds "completely NATURAL" I dont want my labor to be augmented in anyway. I dont any type of pain killer. I dont want my waters broken. I want to allow my body to do what God created it to do. The body naturally knows what to do and when to do it. And the answer to that question of WHY? Because this is how I feel God meant it to be. I feel that this is absolutely what is best for me and my baby. And I know that I am strong enough to do it.
I am grateful that we live in the time we live in and we have many medical advances to use to our advantage, if absolutely necessary. But I will not use those things until Jared and I both feel it is absolutely necessary. I just hope that none of that will be necessary.
Because of the way I want my birthing experiance to go, I have thought long and hard about who I want to be at my side (or at my feet) while I am laboring and when Grayson enters this world. I was lucky enough to be at the birth of my nephew Bentley, and that was an amazing experience that I will hold dear for the rest of my life. So I thought to myself, do I want to give someone else the chance to experience that amazing miracle of my son being born. And the answer I came up with is a little selfish. I want this to be a very special experience and I want it to be very intimate and controlled. I dont want a lot of people watching me or gawking over Grayson when he first comes out. So I decided that the only people I want there with me are my husband and my mom. I want the doctor to imediately put Grayson up on my chest and I want the room to be quiet so that we can start our bonding. I want someone to wait just outside the door with Grant and to bring him in as soon as everything is covered up so that he can be a part of this family bonding experience.
I am well aware that this experience may not go exactly as I want it to. And I know that the nature of laboring and birthing is so unpredictable, but I am determined to make it the best experience possible for my little family.
Friday, July 23, 2010
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2 comments:
that is not selfish at all in fact that is exactly the way I want things. There is nothing wrong with wanting the most intimate of family moments to stay that way there will be plenty of time for everyone to meet him:)
Thanks Cassie. That means a lot that you understand. I just hope it doesnt hurt anyone's feelings.
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